Crossing a
finish line is a powerful thing. It
doesn’t have to be an actual finish line either; a metaphorical one will do
just fine. I guess it is more the idea
that you began at one starting place or another and made it to the end, or the
goal. More often than not it is less
about the starting or finish line and more about all the places in between that
carried you from one point to another.
For me the
finish line was an actual one at the end of 13.1 long-ass miles. Yesterday I ran the half marathon I have been
training for the last three months. It
was as long as it sounds, at times as painful as you might have imagined, and a
far more fulfilling experience than I could ever have hoped for. More than that though, I met a goal I had set
as a way to show myself that I could find a way to tangibly show I am
attempting to keep moving forward with my life after losing my baby boy.
As soon as I
woke up I found myself asking a question I am all too familiar with these last
eight months: How am I ever going to make it through this? Almost immediately I found myself responding
to the doubt: One foot in front of the other, that’s how. And it is the honest to God truth. (I’m
gearin’ up for a good metaphor in case you didn’t see it coming) This whole
experience of training for this half marathon has been incredibly similar to my
experience as a new grieving mama. Some mornings I can barely force myself out
of bed to go on a run and other morning I wake up full of energy ready to take
on the pavement for a long one. Some
days I am running and I just can’t find a good rhythm or keep pace and I can’t
figure out why, especially because just the day before I did great. As time goes on and the more runs I have
under my feet, I am sometimes shocked at how far I’ve traveled; I never thought
I’d make it to where I found myself yesterday. But even as I was running yesterday, I
considered stopping a least a dozen times; I was just too tired, I had too much
further to go, and everything hurts. I
guess it doesn’t really matter how hard you train, you are going to doubt
yourself along the way. (I hope you
could catch my drift on that one)
It was really
amazing though. I had two great friends running the same half marathon so it
was so awesome to share the experience with two ladies I really care
about. Seeing all the different people running,
from seemingly all walks of life, had me wondering what keeps them
running? I suppose everyone has
something that drives him or her forward when their legs are begging them to
stop. I run for my kids; I run for
Kennedy and I run for Jack. My husband,
whom after yesterday I adore more than ever, mapped out several spots he and
Kennedy could watch me and cheer me on.
Seeing my baby girl cheer me on gave me the extra push at just the right
moments. As I approached the finish
line, convinced I had no gas left in my tank, and saw the last hill I’d have to
climb to make it to the finish I could feel myself start to cry. I made it up the hill and saw my sweet girl,
with her wild hair and big smile, jumping up and down, yelling, “Go! Mommy,
go!” the first sob escaped my mouth. I
quickly reminded myself to save it for the end because I had no breath to spare
but then I saw my best friend, Jen, who surprised me with some live race day
support, and so another sob came out.
I pushed forward
with everything I could muster and made it across the finish line. I was given a medal, my 13.1 bumper sticker
(which I will proudly plaster across the back of our new SUV despite Sean’s
protests, thank you very much!) and I exhaustedly found myself in the arms of
my friend, followed by my genuinely proud husband and Kennedy, who was bearing
the brightest smile and bouquet of daisies I’ve ever seen. I remembered to look up to the sky and
silently thank my Jack for pushing his mama across the finish line when I
didn’t feel like I could take even one more step. It was a perfect moment; followed by some
serious vomiting, showering, four-hour-napping, huge-dinner-eating, passing out
for the night moments.
There were
smiles and tears and “I can’t believe we made it’s”. It was the kind of finish line morning you
would hope for. It may have been a
finish line, but really, for me, it was really just a starting line for all of
the step forwards I am going to have to take in order to move forward in my
life. I will be exhausted, frustrated, desperate
to stay in bed and shut the world out some days, but I will always do my best
to move forward.
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