Could someone please explain to me why happy birthday is
quite possibly the hardest song for people to sing? Seriously. It was written in a key that I don’t know if
any human being can sing on without sounding like they are literally in
pain. Yet birthday after birthday, we
sing this song to each other, wishing a happy day to people we love and care
about.
I turned thirty yesterday.
I’m old.
I hate my birthday. I hate my birthday on a good year but this
year being what it was and turning thirty on top of that made it a bit harder
and crappier than most years. I’m not
like most people that claim to hate the day but secretly love the
attention. I am the person that refuses
to let anyone leave the table when we are out to eat at a restaurant in the
event they try to get sneaky and alert the wait staff to the fact that it’s my
birthday.
Yesterday was tough.
I gave myself a pass on my run that morning because I could see the day
going badly so I figured maybe if it didn’t start with exhaustion and a sweaty
back I stood a fighting chance of making it to work in one piece. It didn’t happen. I accepted all of the “happy birthdays” from
my awesome co-workers and friends while trying not to think that I just didn’t
feel very happy. Another friend, who has
been there for me in way I could never thank her for, gave me a beautiful card,some much needed hugs, and words of love and encourgement absorbing my tears on her shirtsleeve.
The thing is, I just couldn’t help feeling really sad. So I cried. I cried tears of sadness because I am missing a huge piece from my heart and my
family and so I feel so incomplete; I may never have the sense of peace that
comes from knowing things in your life are as they should be. Some people never feel that, but I did, and
so I feel that loss as well. I
cried tears of relief because this awful twenty-ninth year of my life finally
came to a close. And still, even with all
of that, there were tears of joy that I have so many people in my life that
love me and have stood by me, even when I didn’t want to see or talk to anyone.
When I got home I cried. I cried but then I wiped my eyes, put a smile back on my face, a bright
pink lipstick I probably have no business wearing but do anyway because, hey, I’m
thirty, and headed out to dinner with my little family that loves me in a way
that soothes my broken soul. We made a
pit-stop at Jack’s spot where I did my best to hold it together as I replaced
his old, dried flowers with some pretty purple and yellow ones and told him I
loved him. Now, it may just be my wanting
it to be so but as I said, “I love you,” the little pinwheel we leave at his
place began to spin; it spun so fast on a day where the heat could just about
kill you and there was little to no breeze.
And so, I’ll take it. He was
telling his mama he loved her on a day where she needed something to help carry
her through it.
Dinner was great and we made it through with no “happy
birthday” from strangers that only sing because they are hoping for a larger
tip. I felt a little guilty because I
know Kennedy wanted to sing and eat dessert, but we said we were full and left
it at that.
Truth be told, I didn’t want to blow out any candles. I didn’t want to make a wish. In my mind I know the one thing I would wish
for can never come true, but my heart can’t help itself. So, for a while at least, I will forgo
candles and wishes. I will continue to
hate birthdays but will try to do my best to get on board with the “happy” part
of it.
Dear Thirty,
Please be kind to me.
Sincerely,
Tricia
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